Do Not Go Gently into that Good Night or "It's Life Jim, but Not as We Know it"

Don't worry... any one of you.....that you don't know what to say. I understand completely but knowing you are with me is enough. You are our friends and your concern, brief comment or just liking the post tells me that you are supporting me and Alan. I love you all for it and never feel alone because of my friends on here. Thank you. XXXXXXXXXXXXXX

I quite often read this thread on my lunch break at work (very late lunch today!) and almost inevitably I end up filled up with tears .... but I am so glad that you can feel the support and love xx

Haven't been on here for a while and so just catching up with your latest news. My thoughts are with you as I know how difficult this must be. Everyone has said pretty much what I would say. Try not to feel guilty, you are doing everything you can and the fact that he is still with you at home is testament to that. I think we all feel guilty at times like this. Maybe guilty because we want to take their pain away from them, want them to get better and we feel helpless that we can't do that. I had guilt about my mother for a long time and still do at times, thinking I should have done this, or said that. Just continue to talk, play music, whatever seems to give comfort. Just be you, that is who Alan has loved all these years and hold on to your memories. :hug:

Like Genbrit's post above, I have not been on here for a while, though pop in now and again for quick catchup, mostly middle of the night. My thoughts and feelings are exactly the same as Genbrit's. Really feel for you and what you are both going through.

I'm another one who just can't find words to say . . . but please be assured that I'm still holding you both in my thoughts & prayers. :grouphug:

Tried to put group private messages on yesterday but told that errors in names???? and token expired so gave up. Sadly Alan now has swallowing difficulties and has barely eaten for the last week. Medication also a problem. It looks like he is nearing the end of his life sooner than we expected. He's well looked after by carers, district nurses, GP and me. He hasn't spoken for a few days now and barely wakes for personal care. It is a very very sad time for us.

I'm so sorry to hear this SG, I'm certain Alan is getting the best care. I wish there wa something I could say to help or being you comfort. You are in my thoughts. Take care of yourself too. Hugs xx

The flipside of love can be so cruel. Mo :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

Thinking of you both at this very sad time

Oh Mo I'm so sorry - just been through the same with mum in law - so hard to watch - sending love and hugs to you both xx